Daddy nights/ nights with the other parent

Daddy-nights or nights with the other partner

Compared to mothers, who automatically have a very close bond with the child through pregnancy and birth, fathers have to actively put in effort to build this bond.

It can often be difficult for fathers to see how the baby turns directly to the mother, especially when tired, hungry or thirsty, in pain or in need of comfort.

But, the more time dad spends with the baby from the beginning and gets involved in routines, the closer the bond with his child will become.

Many parents wonder when dads can take over nights or can start putting the child to bed. The answer is simple - as soon as it feels right for the family and everyone is comfortable with it. This can be from the beginning, or over time. Especially at night it can be a great relief if both parents can take turns.

If mum can let go and enjoy the time for herself without worrying (because of the close bond with the child, this may sometimes take some time), dad can also take over the sleep ritual.

Dads can develop their own routines - babies can distinguish between routines and different caregivers from early on.

Here are a few tips for early bonding for fathers and their children:

• Lying down/reading/singing together with the child

• Skin-to-skin contact

• Walks and exclusive time with the child

• Carry the baby in the carrier

• Bathing/ changing the baby’s nappy

• Using the voice - especially in the and getting used to the child’s nuanced sounds, gestures, and expressions